Throughout my entire life, people have often commented, “She has balls,” and now, upon deep reflection, I can proudly affirm that it is indeed true. I possess an unwavering courage that allows me to embrace my truth, stand firmly in my beliefs, express my vulnerabilities, exhibit kindness, show respect, be unapologetically blunt, be disrespectful when warranted, and acknowledge and work on my weaknesses. Constructive criticism doesn’t intimidate me; rather, I welcome it wholeheartedly, recognizing it as a vital catalyst for personal growth. It’s important to acknowledge that your perception of me not only sheds light on who you think I am but also reflects aspects of your own character.

People often inquire about the origin of my nickname. It seems that everyone is always saying, “Yo, Jen has balls.” Life’s trials and tribulations have forged me into a strong and resilient individual. I have fought for survival throughout my entire existence, often finding myself abandoned and relocated without anyone by my side to defend or support me. Yet, time and time again, I have risen to the challenge and relied on my own strength. Allow me to share a particular incident that occurred one Monday morning—a moment that truly encapsulates the essence of my fortitude. On that day, I had to confront a construction worker and make the difficult decision to terminate his employment. I remember from childhood that in order to earn respect, I needed to be bold and unyielding. Therefore,  I confronted him face-to-face, determined to assert my authority. The details of this confrontation will be revealed in the pages of my book, as they hold significant meaning. It was a remarkable sight—a petite woman standing fearlessly before this man, telling him that he could either leave my property on his own accord or be forcibly removed by me, labeled for the coward he truly was. Without uttering a single word, he left. The other workers gawked in disbelief as they witnessed this seemingly fragile woman take charge and assert herself. As I walked away, I couldn’t help but replay my words in my mind.

I challenged him to examine his own courage—or rather, the lack thereof—by contrasting it with my own. Proudly, I proclaimed that despite wearing a skirt, I was impervious to harm. I warned him to think twice before attempting to challenge me, for I possessed the strength to overpower him. Situational violence had unfortunately become a norm in my life, and I realized that it was my unyielding spirit that led others to refer to me as “J with balls,” even when donning a skirt. In that moment, I chuckled to myself, realizing that perhaps I wore skirts because my balls simply didn’t fit in pants.

I continued with my morning routine, taking to the water for my customary swim. As I glided through the water, I allowed my thoughts to wander. It was during these introspective moments that I had an epiphany—the missing piece to complete my book had been found. Additionally, I recognized that Eric, whom I had crossed paths with, was the vital connection that would weave my stories together and bring my book to its conclusion. Initially, I had contemplated writing a screenplay or multiple books, as those who heard snippets of my life’s narrative exclaimed, “You need to write a book!” Others marveled at the resemblance of my experiences to scenes from a movie. This realization struck a chord within me—was my life a combination of intergenerational trauma and manifestation? I could draw countless parallels between the situations I lived through and those of my parents, as well as the movies I watched as a child. For instance, I adored the film “Against All Odds” and longed to live a life akin to the protagonist’s, surrounded by the serenity of sandy beaches. Unbeknownst to me, fate led me to settle precisely where the movie had been filmed. The list of such manifestations could go on indefinitely, and I will delve deeper into this captivating aspect within the pages of my book.

Join me on an extraordinary journey as I unveil the courage within, share the intricacies of my life’s challenges, and explore the uncanny connections between intergenerational trauma, manifestation, and personal growth. Through my story, I hope to inspire others to embrace their own inner strength, confront adversity head-on, and fearlessly chart their own path to fulfillment.